Telling people “if you don’t love yourself then no one can love you” sounds like a seriously dangerous, counterproductive, and destructive thing to do. This person most likely is unable to love themselves because they have never experienced it. They have never had anyone show them their worth and all their lovable qualities. And it’s okay to start to love yourself through someone else. But to stand in front of this fragile human being and tell them that basically the reason that nobody loves them (in their mind) is because of their own self-depracation? To tell them that they’re causing their own demise? That’s heartless and dismissive.
His body isn’t even cold yet and the New York times has already put out a shameful article declaring Nelson Mandela to be an “icon of peaceful resistance”. News outlets around the Western world are hurrying to publish obituaries that celebrate his electoral victory while erasing the protracted and fierce guerrilla struggle that he and his party fought against the white supremacist South African state in order to make that victory possible. Don’t let racist, imperialist liberalism co-opt the legacy of another radical. Nelson Mandela used peaceful means when he could, and violent means when he couldn’t. For this, during his life they called him a terrorist, and after his death they’ll call him a pacifist — all to neutralize the revolutionary potential of his legacy, and the lessons to be drawn from it.
Don’t fucking let them.